Why Self Care for Busy Moms is So Important

Why Self Care for Busy Moms is So Important

Founder of RoadMap2Balance4Momz, Chassity Parrish joins host Danielle Towner for a discuss about the importance of self care as a busy mom.

In this episode, you’ll find out:

  • How to use journaling to stay fueled and practice gratitude.
  • Why mental wellness is the most important part of self-care.
  • How to find your go-to self care outlet
  • Which is better, balancing or prioritizing?

Reach out to Chassity:

Facebook: @RoadMap2Balance4Momz

Instagram @roadmap2balance4momz 

Website: RoadMap2Balance4Momz.com

Danielle Towner

00:00:52

A wise woman once said, “Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.” Now, that was from Katie Reed. Our beloved former first lady Michelle Obama, once eloquently stated, “We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own to-do list.” And it reminded me of an Instagram post that I saw, I loved, and I added it to my story recently. This Instagram post had a battery and it could have been a battery for any device, but in these days and times of the digital world, it reminded me of a phone battery because we’re always scrambling no matter where we are, “Oh. I got to find my charger.” Or “Can I borrow your charger?” Or “What percentage is your battery on? Let me use your charger.” The head of the purge was almost depleted down to zero or 1%, and it said, “You wouldn’t do this to your battery so why would you do it to yourself? It’s just another implication of taking care of your body, taking care of your mind, taking care of your spirit, protecting yourself, recharging and unplugging, and doing the things that you need to do to make sure that you’re your best. That you present your absolute best for yourself, for your family, your children, for your clients, to God, your overall absolute best self. That’s what we’re talking about today. We’re talking about balance, we’re talking about self-care, self-confidence, and how to be your best self as a mompreneur.

Danielle Towner

00:01:40

In this part of our mompreneurs series, we’ll have a special guest that’s going to come on, and help me talk to you guys about balance, resiliency and self-care. Keep on listening to learn more. Welcome back for another episode of Dreamer’s Den Podcast. I am your host Danielle Towner, and I help entrepreneurs make their dream work through marketing and creative strategy. Now, as you know this month, we’re working on our mompreneur series.

Danielle Towner

00:02:22

We’re interviewing some phenomenal and sensational mompreneurs and talking to them about their journey of entrepreneurship and taking care of their families and just how they get it all done in a day. Today we have with us Chassity Parish of the Roadmap to Balance for Moms. Now, she is a wife and a mother of five. She’s a motivational speaker, and a blogger who helps moms develop resiliency balance and self-care. You can find her on YouTube, on Instagram, Facebook, and her website, but we’ll let her give you all the details on that later on.

Danielle Towner

00:03:05

Right now, we want to find out more about her mission at Roadmap to Balance for Moms. Welcome on with us Chassity.

Chassity

00:03:14

Hi. Thank you, for having me on, and I appreciate it. I’m excited to be here

Danielle Towner

00:03:22

I’m so excited to have you on. I’ve been following you on Instagram for a while so I’m sure that my guests will be happy to hear about how they can incorporate some of your self-care, and balance strategies into their mompreneurship world.

Chassity

00:03:41

Right. Right. Yeah.

Danielle Towner

00:03:44

Let’s start with learning more about Roadmap to Balance for Moms. How did you come up with the idea for this resource to help moms?

Chassity

00:03:54

Okay. I had been reading this book and it was called the Purpose Driven Life, and before that I had been talking to different moms, I had been doing it for several years anyway. I was just trying to figure out what my purpose was, but I knew it was in the field of working with women and working with moms. I just did not know exactly what it was until I had an aha moment while I was reading this book, and it just came to me. I am a Christian woman, so I have a relationship with God, and so I know that it was God given. It just came to me and it was like, “Just do this Roadmap to Balance for Moms” We see a lot of different things out in the world where there are celebrities, and they have their different lifestyles as moms, but there’s nothing out there for the modern everyday woman.

Chassity

00:04:42

That’s how I came up with the idea of the Roadmap to Balance for Moms because I feel like I’m the modern everyday woman. I multitask a career, a spouse, I have children, I attend appointments, I have a social life, I work in ministry and I’m trying to maintain self-care. I feel like I can give my experiences to other moms to help them find balance throughout their life.

Danielle Towner

00:05:10

Right. A lot of them are just getting started and you don’t know what it’s like until you really get into it and you have all these different things going on, and it’s like, “Gosh, how did these experienced, or how did these seasoned moms, how did they get all this done?” That’s great. It’s awesome that you said that you have a relationship with God and you’re connected so you knew immediately that that was your purpose. When you have that relationship, it almost seems like a coincidence or like you just stumble upon it, but really that’s how it was supposed to happen. That’s how you find your purpose, when you have that definite connection with God.

Chassity

00:05:52

Yes. Exactly. That’s basically how it happened. My relationship with God just really pushed it into fruition.

Danielle Towner

00:06:03

Yeah. What are some of the most important things that you’ve learned from the moms that you’re acquainted with? I know you said that you are sharing your experiences, but what are some of the things that you’ve learned?

Chassity

00:06:15

One of the most important things that I’ve learned is that each mom has their own path. We all have a different roadmap. Just because my roadmap may go this way, this other mom that I’m acquainted with their roadmap may go a different direction because they may have a family with children under eight years old, and they have a different roadmap that they have to follow them. I think it’s based on your family size, the ages of your kids, your work lifestyle; whether you are a stay at home mom or you’re a full-time mom, or if you’re a single parent, so your roadmap is going to look different from everyone else’s roadmap. You got to take that mom’s situation and apply her roadmap to fit her.

Chassity

00:06:58

It has to fit her and it has to work for her.

Danielle Towner

00:07:09

All right. Yeah. I can see exactly where you’re coming from because, some of us we beat ourselves up because we have our expectations high and they should be, but like you said, we don’t look at that everybody’s situation is different. It may be that it’s not the right time for you to do certain things or it may be like you said, it just doesn’t fit into your purpose or the way that your household operates so you do have to not get caught up in the comparison trap. Like you said, take the advice and apply it to suit your household’s needs.

Chassity

00:07:47

Exactly. Exactly. You got to apply it to, because every household is different. Every situation is different, so every mom’s roadmap is going to be different. There’s not going to be the same roadmap for every mom, they’re going to have a separate roadmap. Theirs is going to look different from each other’s.

Danielle Towner

00:08:25

Right. A totally different flow. Now, as a motivational speaker, I know that you’re constantly pouring into others, so at the end of the day what motivates you to keep going? How do you pour into yourself and how do you keep yourself going?

Chassity

00:08:27

Well, I’m going to say two. Two of the things that keeps me going is the fact that, if I know that I’m helping one mom, that’s all that really matters. I’m not big on a crowd or I’m not big on like Sanda, “Oh, I got to be able to help 10 moms this month or 15 moms this month.” If I’m able to help one mom, I feel like I’m doing justice because I’m still walking in my purpose. Then the other piece to that is just being grateful.

Chassity

00:09:12

I feel like I’m really humble and I’m really grateful in my walk and with my purpose, and that’s what really keeps me motivated and keeps me going. Also, I do a grateful journal every morning. I do a entry every day of what I’m grateful for, and that really keeps me motivated.

Danielle Towner

00:09:36

Right. I’ve heard that myself about gratitude and tried to start incorporating that because it’s easy to get into a mode of complaining or looking at what you’re lacking of. Gratitude just helps you all around. It helps you to shift your mindset and to prepare you for more.

Chassity

00:09:36

Right. I agree. I agree. It definitely has helped me, and it keeps me humble. It will just keep me in a content place my whole situation with helping moms.

Danielle Towner

00:09:49

Absolutely.

Danielle Towner

00:10:34

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Danielle Towner

00:11:23

What does that mean to you? Then also, what are some small things that moms can start doing, to implement self-care into their routine?

Chassity

00:11:26

For me, for self-care, I know that if you look in today’s world and you look out in the social media, you look at the reality TV shows and you look at pretty much anything as far as when it comes out to females and women in general.

Chassity

00:12:06

People are really focused on self-care as getting your hair done, getting your nails done, getting your feet done, pampering, stuff like that. To me, self-care is really working on being healthy within your physical health, your mental health, your emotional health, your psychological health. If you’re a Christian, have innate peace, being healthy as well, having a healthy relationship with God, if that’s part of your makeup. Those play major factors in self-care. Now, some people may not agree with that, but for me, I feel that’s a huge factor because at the end of the day, if you don’t have your mental health how can you function as a mom? How can you function as a wife? How can you function as a man? How can you function as an encourager? How can you function on your job? Then to your other question, what are some of the small things that moms can do to start implementing self-care? First, we have to identify what’s important to us regarding the self-care piece.

Chassity

00:12:46

For some moms that I have come in contact with just being able to get some time alone, every day or every other day has been an important thing for them. That plays a role in mental health because you need time to get your thoughts together. You need time to recuperate. You need time to just breathe, and to gather yourself together so that you can be all that you can be for your family, for your kids, for yourself. You have to be able to focus, and to keep yourself in alignment so that you can be the best person to yourself first, and so that you can be the best person to your family, to your spouse, to your children, to your friends, to anyone that you’re coming in contact with.

Chassity

00:13:37

If you’re not okay within yourself, how are you going to give to anyone else?

Danielle Towner

00:13:45

Exactly. Exactly. We go through so many changes throughout the stages of motherhood, and like you said, sometimes just having some time alone is important. I’ve had people ask, “What are you going to do on this day or that day?” If that’s a time or a date to myself, sometimes I say nothing, like nothing. I don’t want to think about anything. I don’t want to plan anything. I just want to do nothing. Like you said, that’s an important piece to your mental and your emotional well-being. I’ve heard some ministers or some speakers say, “You can’t even look very pretty and put together on the outside, but if you have baggage on the inside, then that’s doing you no good.”

Chassity

00:14:39

Exactly. Exactly. You have to deal with your internal self so that your outside appearance can reflect your inside.

Danielle Towner

00:14:39

Yeah.

Chassity

00:14:40

That’s huge.

Danielle Towner

00:14:41

Now, some moms say that they don’t believe in work-life balance, and they say that it’s more about prioritizing what’s most important at the time. As far as you helping moms with developing balance, what’s your take on how they feel about work-life balance?

Chassity

00:16:03

I go back and forth with that because it could be both. If you have a routine in place and you’re following your routine and your routine is working for you, then to me that can be considered work-life balance. Let’s say you have a schedule in place for your family, and you’re following the schedule for your kids, you’re meeting all your deadlines, you’re making all of your appointments, and everything is flowing the way it’s supposed to flow. You’re meeting all your deadlines if you have a personal business, different things that you have going on, and you seem to be flowing with your schedule that you have put in place, to me I can view that as work-life balance. Now, I have personally talked to other moms and they said it’s still prioritizing. I don’t really debate with them because we have different viewpoints and I’m okay with that. People see things from different angles and from different viewpoint. That’s just what it is. It is what it is. However, like I said again, if you have a schedule in place, and your schedule seems to be flowing, and everything is going the way it’s supposed to go, to me you have a sense of balance. It may not be the best, or it may not go the best way you want it to go every single day, but as long as you got that schedule in place, and you’re following that schedule, you have a sense of balance.

Chassity

00:16:46

Well, some days you may have to prioritize some of those items within that schedule, but still with a sense of balance.

Danielle Towner

00:17:01

Right. Sometimes you can’t really plan in emergencies or things that come up that you don’t know are going to happen. That would be the time where you get what’s most important, and you may have to shift some things around or move something to the next day.

Chassity

00:17:19

Yeah.

Danielle Towner

00:17:19

I can agree with that.

Chassity

00:17:22

Yeah. I agree. With a lot of things around, due to emergencies or family situations that come up and I’ve had to shift things. We have an adult son that has mental illness, and we’ve had situations where we’ve had to shift a lot of things just because of that. With that being said, because we had the shift, we had to make some priority changes, which shifted some things around. Our schedule changed, but I still have some type of balance. You see what I mean?

Danielle Towner

00:17:56

Yeah. You still have that, like you said, that roadmap or that planner, that calendar to go by. To say, “Okay. Where was I? Where do I get back?

Chassity

00:18:05

Yes. Yes. Get back.

Danielle Towner

00:18:09

Speaking of kids, what do you think your kids have learned from you since becoming a mompreneur?

Chassity

00:18:52

My kids have learned from me that as long as you stay grounded, and work hard for what you want to do in life and what you want to be in life, you can be anything that you want to be. They’ve also learned that to not give up on your dreams, to not give up on your goals, and to stay focused. I think nowadays, things are unlimited. I’m thinking back to when my parents were coming up, there were certain things that they were not privy to, that my kids now are privy to. You see what I’m saying?

Danielle Towner

00:18:54

Yeah.

Chassity

00:19:35

I talk to them all the time and let them know the sky’s the limit. As long as you work hard towards your goals, and towards your dreams and get good grades in school, you can be anything that you want to do. Because I work, I have a job, and I also have my business, my kids are picking up on that and they also want to become entrepreneurs. I really like that because I want them to have their own. They may want to have a job too, I’m okay with that, but I still want them to have the entrepreneur mindset. At the end of the day a job really does just pay the bills, but if you’re doing your dream job, that’s really more fulfilling for me.

Danielle Towner

00:20:07

Exactly. That’s awesome that they can see it coming together, and they have your roadmap to go by when they’re ready to get started. Like you said, there are a lot of things that our parents didn’t have access to. There are a lot of technologies that we didn’t have, that they have right off the bat. You really can access a whole world, and like you said, you can do anything that you want to do.

Chassity

00:00:00

Exactly. Exactly.

Danielle Towner

00:20:10

We’ve had a great talk. We’ve talked about everything; self-care, balance, motivation. I’m certain that there are a lot of people who may want to get in touch with you, to connect for business or to get help balancing, and doing self-care just as a mom. How can these moms find your resources online or get in touch with you for a collaboration?

Chassity

00:21:11

Yes. I have a website. My website is www.roadmaptobalanceformoms.com. Two and four is the number. They can reach me there or they can reach me on Instagram or Facebook, and they can message me there @roadmap to balance for moms or by email. My email address is roadmaptobalance for moms@gmail.com. Those are the different avenues that I can be outreached to. If someone wants to reach out to me for collaboration or for resources, they can definitely outreach to me.

Danielle Towner

00:21:14

That’s where you can find her to access her resources or to get in touch for a collaboration if you have any questions about this episode or direct questions for chastity. Then, if you’re listening to this podcast from Anchor, you can press the record button and you can ask their question. You can make a comment on my website where this podcast will be published, and one of us will get back to you and you may have an opportunity to be featured on the next episode of Dreamer’s Den Podcast. Thank you, guys for listening. As I always say, dream until your dreams come true.

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As owner of Dream Work Creatives, LLC, Danielle has the opportunity to use her gifts of business development and creative expression. She has a passion for helping solo entrepreneurs and small businesses make their dreams work through marketing and creative strategy. Danielle’s digital marketing services have helped countless businesses build their brand awareness and online presence using social media marketing, website design and content marketing. Her blog features business and lifestyle growth tips and “Dreamer’s Den Podcast: Entrepreneurs Making the Dream Work”. During her free time, she enjoys travel, movies, books and the endless joy of her little one.